Archive for the ‘Friends’ Category

Fri
20
Apr 2007
[Personal] Why My Friends are Cool 

My friend Ryan called me on Monday and said he was at the Hamilton Mall and wanted to stop by, as he had something for me.

Turns out, that something was a battery pack for a Xbox 360 wireless controller.

The week before, we had been playing Rainbow 6: Vegas, and my batteries started running low. I only have one battery pack, so if I forget to take it off and charge it when I go to bed, I can find myself in situation where bullets are whizzing past my head, and just as I go to reload, I have no power.. and whammo..

So during the game, I’m trying to run through the house and find batteries that actually work (the 360 controller allows you to use regular AA as well). Put the first set in, start playing… 1 minute later… batteries dead.. ACK!!!.. so go and find another set.. finally get back on.

Ryan laughingly asks why I just don’t buy a second battery pack. I make a comment about the zombie grubs and not justifying spending money on a spare battery pack, even if it’s only 10/15 bucks. I just gotta remember to charge it!

So anyway, he went out of his way to pick me up an extra pack, so that when we played, I wouldn’t have any more battery issues.

What goes around comes around… over the past several years, before he had a full time job, Steve or I might pick up the occassional lunch bill for him. Never thought anything of it.. and I’m sure, that when picked up the battery pack, he wasn’t thinking, “Oh, I owe Duncan for that Moe’s lunch from April of 2005”. He just thought about being a nice guy.

Nice guys are cool. Nice cool guys are good to have as friends.

Women hug each other in these sorts of situations. I just gave him a hearty handshake and said ‘Thanks. I appreciate it.’ He knew the implied hug was there.

Current Music: Heather Dale – Prodigal Son

Current Mood: (touched) touched

Thu
27
Jul 2006
[Personal] Get out of the nest.. now! 

Some background for non-scadian readers: For those that don’t know, I’m active in a group called the Society for Creative Anachronism (SCA). Specifically, I live in the East Kingdom. I’ve been involved since I was 16 and I’m most interested in historical fencing. I’ve received an award called the Order of the Golden Rapier (or OGR for short). This is highest level award you can receive in the East Kingdom for skill and service to fencing. Forgive me as I slip some common SCA terms into this post.

As such, I can establish a formal relationship with another fencer as a student. They are known as your ‘cadet’. This is symbolized with a blue scarf on the arm of the cadet. My job, as their teacher (also known by my title ‘Don’), is to teach them what it means to *be* a member of the OGR, and (hopefully) eventually prepare them for inclusion. This is not only about fencing skill, but about service, teaching, and other aspects of the SCA.

A little over two years ago, I took my first cadet. Baby-IzzyHis name was Collin Monroe. Now, Collin wasn’t particularly new to fencing, in fact he was kind of par-boiled. So the amount of spit and polish needed wasn’t as severe as it could have been with a less experienced fencer. The thing about the Don/Cadet relationship though is that it isn’t just about us. He continues to work with other people and teachers and constantly hones his skills. He was actually close enough to another fencer, Doña Marion del Okes, that he referred to her as his ‘fairy God Doña’.

This weekend was Southern Regional Warcamp, Collin was inducted into the order. Although several people asked me when he was getting his OGR, I wasn’t about to put his name forward for the polling until I felt that he was ready. Then, on the last royal polling it was finally time. So I’ve known for about two months now that the polling went well and the King and Queen decided to induct him. Of course, I had to tell everyone in Tadcaster. That is our fencing academy and household. I’m *so* glad everyone managed to keep the secret.

First order of business was making sure that he had a pin. I ordered it from a jeweller in Philadelphia called Glass on Gold. At first I wanted to give him my medallion as a heritage kinda thingy. Then I thought more about it and decided a gift from the academy would be more appropriate. So I contacted everyone and let them know what the price would be and get folks to throw some cash my way. We had a choice of bronze or gold with the enamel. Though the gold was more expensive, with everyone chipping in it was more reasonable for me. Obviously this was a dress piece meant to be worn in court and not on the battlefield. I arranged for the award to be given at an event I knew he would be attending. I also let his wife know so that she could make sure that the whole family was there.

Then, I wanted to make sure that he had a proper OGR-level scroll. I contacted our friend Madame Brunissende de Broceliande to prepare the scroll and Lady Katryne to do the wording. It turned out awesome! Bruni worked very Device - Don Collin Monrohard on the scroll. So hard in fact, that she couldn’t keep herself from mentioning ‘the scroll’ in her LJ posts. That got Collin’s suspicions up. While she didn’t say it was his, she did mention it was a fencing scroll. That’s ok. I still forgive her.. he was *mostly* in the dark. The scroll wound up being an image of a fencing manual plate showing two fencers with bucklers (one of Collin’s favorite forms). The winning fencer was impaling the loser through the chest while deflecting the incoming shot with his buckler. Bruni put Collin’s device on the winning fencer’s buckler and it looked really great!

I wanted to give Collin something from me personally, so I worked on creating a portable sword rack for him to take to events and display/hold all his weapons when he fought. Not being a woodworker, I definately bit off more than I could chew. Luckily, my friend Andre *does* do woodworking, and he was able to help me out. You can tell it was ‘help’ rather than ‘do’, because there are some obvious mistakes. Thing is, I’m hoping it’s more personal that way.

When the big day finally arrived, I had all these plans for the presentation of the pin and sword rack and what I would say. Hell, I used to do theater. I could project my voice. Nope. I got choked up. I managed to squeak out my speech and OGR pinstumbled through it. No one heard me except Collin and the King and Queen who were 4 feet away. As I groused later about all the things that went wrong (I need more practice in court), my friend Don Pascual said to me “Did you say it from here (pointed to his heart)? Then nothing you said or did was wrong.”. I keep trying to take that to heart (literally), but the perfectionist in me keeps jumping up and down in the back of my head. Not only did I have his dress pin for him but I had a broze medallion from Marion that was designed to be worn while fighting. Awesome! To complicate matters, the Queen also had a pin for him. Now he has 3! I only have one *sniff*. I’m out swagged by my former cadet already.

What went right:

  • Surrounded by his friends and family
  • Mostly a surprise
  • Awesome scroll that managed to stay dry during the rain
  • Good court heraldry
  • He’s still wearing his medallion 4 days later!
  • My speech (while quiet) was extremely heartfelt
  • My wife’s great tasting cake with the OGR badge and congrats on it
  • Collin defended the Iron Ring three times, incuding against two other OGRs the day of his induction (he still hasn’t taken a challenge from me yet though FWIW)

What went wrong

  • Court
  • -The K&Q already had a pin for him and almost excused him out of court before I could run up and give him the pin and medallion I had for him
  • -I turned my back to the queen when talking to Collin and should have given her the pin to present to him
  • -I got choked up and couldn’t be heard by the crowd, the rest of the OGRs (15 feet away), only by Collin and the royalty
  • -I forgot to take his cadet’s scarf off
  • -Didn’t get any pictures because my wife was dealing with two twins. Hoping others got some good pictures I can mooch.
  • Sword Rack
  • -I didn’t have time to paint his device on the side of the sword rack
  • -Some of the stain ran and colored the horizontal more than I wanted to
  • -I forgot to take pictures while a) making it b) before giving it to him c) after I gave it to him
  • Event
  • -It was raining and made for some very miserable people and family members.
  • -The cake cracked in the middle during transport so it broke right in the middle of the OGR badge. Maybe that was a sign.
  • -Forgot to take a picture of the cake.
  • -Forgot to get pictures of me and Collin together afterwards in camp.

Blech. So ok, I listed more bad than good. But you know what? Overall I still feel really good about the whole thing. The screwups were minor (overall), and they can be overlooked or resolved (such as the picture thing). It’s been a wonderful two years. Collin has decided to keep the cadet scarf for himself and pass it along to his first cadet. That’s really cool. I’m looking forward to Pennsic this year. It’ll be our first time back in 3 years. Unfortunately, Collin and his family will not be attending because of vacation conflicts. I was really looking forward to fighting alongside him in the melees, etc, as my peer and not as my student any longer. Guess that will have to wait. It’s not like I haven’t felt like that for quite some time now. The title doesn’t suddenly change that. We’ve got many years in the SCA together in the future.

Nice long post. I’m sure I missed a few things. Maybe I’ll have a followup later. Either that or the rabid masses can remind me what I’ve forgotten in the comments.

[Listening to: Kiss Me - Melissa Etheridge - Lucky]

Wed
25
Jan 2006
[Personal] I expect more of you next time, Jeremy 

Last week, my friend Jeremy ([info]ianraven) blogged about his son’s Cub pack’s Pinewood Derby race. It sounds like they had a really good time, Dad and son working together to build the car.

However, these guys did it up one step better…they attached a wireless camera to record the race and make it look like a jet engine.

Now, Jeremy is a bit of a techno-geek. So I certainly don’t expect him to take that lying down. Next year I expect better. If you can’t find a way to attach something electronic to Kovey’s car, you’re not half the geek I thought you were.

[Listening to: More Love - Dixie Chicks - Home]
Current Mood: (blank) blank

Thu
10
Nov 2005
[Personal] Linus: Maybe all it needs is a little love 

Every year, my friend Steve does his Snoopy dance around their Christmas tree. Now, theirs (currently) isn’t as pathetic as Charlie Brown’s.. it’s just a nice litle ritual he has.

This year, though, wouldn’t it be nice if he had the actual tree to dance around?

Replica of Charlie Brown’s Xmas tree

Cory Doctorow: Urban Outfitters is selling a replica of the "pathetic" Xmas tree Charlie Brown took home in A Charlie Brown Christmas:

The tree is an exact replica of the tree from the famous cartoon, made of wire branches and plastic needles with a criss cross wooden base. The bendable branches allow you to make it look just how you want, super pathetic or just kind of pathetic. The tree comes with one red Christmas ball ornament.

I know he’s looking forward to it again this year.. maybe he’ll even wear his Charlie Brown zig zag shirt.

[Listening to: The Paddy Set - Seven Nations]
Current Mood: (pissed off) pissed off

Wed
12
Oct 2005
[Personal] I don’t think he’s part of the other 10% 

Having a cop as a best friend means that you often get to hear the wonderful stories about how folks act like idiots when they get pulled over. He’s often told me of the things that I should do if I ever get pulled over (besides handing them the PBA card). The site he references has a full article that’s worth reading as well, as he’s only giving you one portion of it.

Secret Road Tactics for American Drivers

How to react in case you do get pulled over for speeding:

(a) 90% of the cops out there are NOT assholes.
(b) 90% of the cops out there are NOT assholes.

[.. snip ..]

[Listening to: Many Too Many - Genesis - A Trick of the Tail]
Current Mood: (amused) amused

Mon
10
Oct 2005
[Personal] Ode to Edmund Patterson 

Ode to Edmund Patterson (SCA). So this weekend I heard a really dsiturbing story. This comic summarizes it very nicely. Since it’s likely to get cut off by my blog width, you can follow this link to go directly to the PVP website and see the whole comic, as well as the subsequent ones.

By the way, did you notice I spelled disturbing incorrectly in the first sentence? I did it on purpose, because *that’s* how disturbing the story was, and I wanted to emphasize it.

We had a great time this weekend, even hearing stories about Edmund’s junk. Once again we showed new people Jungle Speed and they played for a long time. Then we broke out the second “gotta-have” game, Time’s Up. These two games should be added to your personal gaming library for you and all your friends. The links above to take you to Time Well Spent, a very nice online gaming store that Steve likes to recommend people to. As always though, we encourage you to visit your FLGS (Friendly Local Game Store) *first*. We need to support the local game stores if we want them to stay in business. However, not everyone has a FLGS near them, and if they don’t carry these games, then you have an alternate location to purchase you copy from. Notice that there are Expansion #1 and Expansion #2 available as well.

I can image already the number of stories that we’re going to be telling concerning those Time’s Up games. We played for *hours* and laughed until our sides hurt. Ya know what? We’d have done that even if we weren’t drinking.

Here’s to Walt Chamberlain (inside joke)…

[Listening to: Black Is The Colour - Gaelic Storm - Tree]
Current Mood: (groggy) groggy

Mon
12
Sep 2005
[Personal] 20 Random Facts 

It seems that recently, a good number of the blogs that I read are really just ongoing meme lists. I like to call them “me me lists”, cause it’s like the next person in line waving their hand about crying “Oh! Me Next! Me ME!!” While the first several are cute, the remaining 4711 get particularly boring… especially when there are only 5 or 6 possible outcomes. I guess it all depends on how much work goes into the production of the questions and possible answers that really determine if it’s diversified enough. There are even online automated sites which help you to design your own meme for your friends. There are also variations on the quiz meme, which can take facts about you, such as your birthday and provide answers for you.

These quizes and lists seem to dominate the personal blogs. The thing is, there is more to this whole blogging thing besides just the memes. Of my list of LiveJournal friends whose blogs I read, [info]ld_lorenzo‘s (Mike) is particularly insightful, and memes are not the primary content.

I guess that’s what really frustrates me… when it’s the only content.. I don’t mind the occassional ones.

That being said, one of the things floating around from blog to blog right now is a list of 20 random facts about yourself. After you answer it, you’re supposed to “tag” others from your friends list, so that they in turn have to list their facts and pass it along. Problem is, I got tagged twice. Once by [info]Math5 and once by [info]fencerm2. And the only other people I have on my friends list have already completed the damn thing, so I can’t really tag them back.

That aside, after my spiel on meme’s, you might wonder why I bring up the tagging list? Because I actually found them to be insightful additions to my friend’s blogs. Since you did the searching through your own history for those facts, rather than answer the questions to help you determine what kind of vegetable you are, it caught my attention.

So much in fact, that I decided to actually answer the tagging and present my own facts. I think I’ll only do these things when they actually make you sit down and answer personal questions, rather than having something pregenerated. Since I’m not tagging anyone else, I figured I’d fill out each fact with a bit of detail.. so you’re getting several facts in one and it’s more of a topic. I’m also going to make it as interactive as possible.

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Current Mood: (accomplished) accomplished